Dearest friends,

We went to sleep last night with this reality: Donald Trump is our president-elect. Upon wakening, there it was, unchanged.

What Todd Kashdan says is true:

Todd’s tweet reminds me that there is a beacon of light to follow, and that we can hold onto hope as we connect with others to protect human rights. We live in a culture with norms that encourage us to deal with difficult feelings by getting busy. By “getting over it and getting on with it.”  That’s not the way to do it though. We have to give grief it’s due, and allow ourselves to feel it, express it and move through it. When we face and express those feelings, we lighten their burden and free ourselves for action.

Right now, I am deeply grieved, deeply shocked, and deeply saddened.On this first post-election day, I need time to come to grips with what has happened. There will be a time soon for resilience, coping and finding the way forward. But first I need a chance to grapple with what this election means for me personally, and what it means for us all.

I am struggling to understand and process the unmistakable messages of  the election. Some of them speak to our electorate, but I think they speak much more to our social, political, and economic systems.

I know this moment calls for us to stand up and work for what we believe and value. To summon and act on our fierceness, determination, persistence and hope. I know those things, and I know I will get there. I know we will collectively get there. For now, I need to grieve, recognize the impact of what has happened, and make room for that positive forward energy.

Remember what Todd Kashdan said. He’s right.